The book is called:
My Life as a Mother
With chapters including:
Introduction
Teen Mother
Single Mother
Married Mother
Mother of Two
Mother of a Rebellious Teen
Mother of a Missionary
Motherhood Now
I wanted to say how my life and events have been more calm since God has been part of my life.
I think it's interesting that I was a teen mother and that for me life has turned out good.
But I realize I didn't 'have' to become a mother. Being a single mom was hard for me too, but again, I chose to become a mom.
I'm glad that I married Per and that his perspective has brought a different point of view to my life. Now, I don't know what to say. Do I impart words of wisdom that I know now? Do I just tell the story (I think NO on this one) What is my point in writing this story? Is it to bring clarity to my mind of past events? Is it just a history for me and my family?
Some things I've learned:
- a parent needs to tell their child they have plans for their future, and have plans for their future, that way the child will make decisions for their future. There is no use in focusing on Now only.
- thinking "Figure it out. I had to, so you do it" about your child is dangerous. The child is counting on the parent to have figured it out and to help them, because they don't know. It's like saying to your 18 year old "buh-bye, have a nice life." The child doesn't want to be left alone to make their own decisions. Teaching life lessons occurs when parents teach adult children.
- having two children makes for a more disorganized life. You need to know what you would do because you will be tested to make the right choices.
- a parent needs to always love their child even when they are acting out. If a child can't turn to their parents for love, who can they turn to?
- a parent needs to let their child make their own choices, even if the child makes choices the parent wouldn't make.
- a parent needs to learn how to not judge their children. If a child feels judged by a parent, the child will feel resentment towards the parent like they don't accept them.
- a child doesn't have perspective because they've only lived according to what their parents think. Children need to get away from their parents so they can make decisions for themselves.
My Life as a Mother
With chapters including:
Introduction
Teen Mother
Single Mother
Married Mother
Mother of Two
Mother of a Rebellious Teen
Mother of a Missionary
Motherhood Now
I wanted to say how my life and events have been more calm since God has been part of my life.
I think it's interesting that I was a teen mother and that for me life has turned out good.
But I realize I didn't 'have' to become a mother. Being a single mom was hard for me too, but again, I chose to become a mom.
I'm glad that I married Per and that his perspective has brought a different point of view to my life. Now, I don't know what to say. Do I impart words of wisdom that I know now? Do I just tell the story (I think NO on this one) What is my point in writing this story? Is it to bring clarity to my mind of past events? Is it just a history for me and my family?
Some things I've learned:
- a parent needs to tell their child they have plans for their future, and have plans for their future, that way the child will make decisions for their future. There is no use in focusing on Now only.
- thinking "Figure it out. I had to, so you do it" about your child is dangerous. The child is counting on the parent to have figured it out and to help them, because they don't know. It's like saying to your 18 year old "buh-bye, have a nice life." The child doesn't want to be left alone to make their own decisions. Teaching life lessons occurs when parents teach adult children.
- having two children makes for a more disorganized life. You need to know what you would do because you will be tested to make the right choices.
- a parent needs to always love their child even when they are acting out. If a child can't turn to their parents for love, who can they turn to?
- a parent needs to let their child make their own choices, even if the child makes choices the parent wouldn't make.
- a parent needs to learn how to not judge their children. If a child feels judged by a parent, the child will feel resentment towards the parent like they don't accept them.
- a child doesn't have perspective because they've only lived according to what their parents think. Children need to get away from their parents so they can make decisions for themselves.
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